Have I Made a Terrible Mistake?

My 15 year old daughter spends a significant portion of her days listening to Tidal from her iPhone using apple air pods. I asked her to listen to my new Bartok with hd800. Now she wants her own Bartok.

Am I a bad parent if I give her a Bartok or am I a bad parent for asking her to listen to mine? Kind of in uncharted territory on this issue.


The answer depends largely on how significant a financial outlay a second Bartók represents for you. If it’s going to stretch your finances, then you’re well within your rights to ask her to listen to yours instead. Even if the new Bartók is within your means, I’d link it to some kind of achievement on her part – such as a reward for getting excellent results in her GCSEs or their equivalent in your country. This will also give you some breathing space and more chance for her to explore your Bartók in case this is a passing whim on her part – the worst thing would be to buy a second unit and for her not to use it.

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I’ve been buying my own audio gear since I was 13. It’s great that your daughter is interested in better audio quality, can discern it. But I would not start with a Bartok. It should be a journey, learning along the way. Starting with a Bartok also sets the bar too high, as a starting point.

I’d suggest either she starts by doing some research and buying something simpler herself (less expensive) or alternatively you surprise her at her birthday or Christmas with a gift (same, not expensive). Or I like Richard’s idea of a reward earned.

It might be a phase. She may lose interest at some point. Best not to have too much invested if that happens.

Or she could get the AirPods Max headphones, which are very good. Definite improvement over the “pod” earbuds. There’s also the Audioquest Dragonflys.



You still have a chance to be a good parent. You must teach your daughter how to save the planet and therefore how to recycle pieces of equipment.
So, you buy yourself a Vivaldi set up, DaC + upsmpler and you give the Bartok to your daughter :joy:


I’d suggest for your daughter try as first step with something as the new THX Onyx , is a incredibly small dac and amplifier she can carry in the pocket and sounds incredibly good with any headphones. I bought one to walk and for running and is really good! At home I share my Bartok with the family.